Long Distance Relationships…

Relationships are a trick…relationships are a bloody trick. Forgive my language but I couldn’t help myself. There’s two sides of me writing this, the angry side, and the calm side.

Long distance relationships are a joy to be in, and a hustle to also be in. We all know the complexities of  loving someone who’s never around at one point it becomes literally virtual. The complexities of a long distance relationship need the simplicities of two people willing to be together no matter what situations arise…and this is where the story begins…

Uganda just lost to Zambia again and the hope for another African Cup appearance dawn on us this dusk, but that’s beside the point…

Communication is important in any relationship but very essential in a long distance relationship, because unlike couples who are a call or visit away, the ones far away are a text, inbox and a summer holiday away. So when communication breaks down even for a second, things tend to creep in. Its much worse if the relationship like any child is still trying to find its place, taking those baby steps and so I take you to the main story…

It all started with a rushed skype call and the promise to call at a much later time when the data was streaming and everyone was wide asleep…this didn’t go down well because 1/2 the couple wanted to talk, and the other was rushing to go somewhere…

24 hours later…an inbox just saying ‘Hi’ was received by the couple who wanted to talk but now was very angry…angry that in all the 24 hours, with all the messages they had sent, all they got was a ‘Hi’. What did that Hi mean, what did it imply.

Hi, well, am busy, we’ll talk later.

Hi, hope all is well, cant talk now.

Hi, yeah, just Hi…

Hi.

And speechless and infuriated, they couldn’t do anything but just ignore.

Like I said, communication is important, but very very essential in a long distance relationships. Complexities of time lag and gain do come into play, but still communication is essential. Now, am not saying that the other party wasn’t busy or didn’t have something to do but…relationships, long ones at that can only survive when two peas are actually in the same pod. If not, doubt, anger, resentment, mistrust comes into play…loss of excitement and tit for tat…

This could go anyway…I mean, maybe next time the roles might be reversed…

But we all know, if we want someone in our lives, we should try as much as possible to keep them in…and if you truly love someone, you might just let this go, over look it, work out the chinks in this cog, and walk your path of enlightenment and joy with them…

If you love, love with one heart, dont let small trivialities come into the midst of something beautiful you both share…

If this doesn’t work, because when angry, humans tend to do the most insane things…pray. Say a little prayer.

If prayer doesn’t work…just call them and be as bloody angry as you want to be…scream at them…SCREAM…

And so, allow me go dial this lady and give her a piece of my bloody mind…

Peace.

 

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