Ma-things

Eh!

Guys, marriage, aha!

These ma-things, ara!

So, my partner and I had a little squabble. A small one, a tiny one but the way relationships are set up; we both failed to communicate about it because we assumed – i) I thought she knew me, ii) she thought I knew her!

Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is sacred. Marriage is legit dope if you have your best friend by your side! But, like relationships, best friends disagree, and fight occasionally and we disagreed the other day.

Usually, when people disagree, there’s resentment and anger and disappointment BUT that is bound to happen. So what do you do when you fight with your partner?

1. Remember the struggle. For guys, remember what it meant when she said yes the first time. And struggle here is in jest. Remember your journey, how far you’ve come.

2. Time out; always go back to that space where you can both be heard. Most times in relationships, one listens while the other speaks. So go to that space. Or if you don’t have that space, make it.

3. Who made you? Who grew you? If Christ is your foundation, surely these squabbles can come to pass for through His love, we learn to love and by renewing our minds continuously, what are squabbles with your best friend if not just a reminder that you came together with your differences to become ONE!

I believe it’s an opportunity to renew your mind when you squabble!

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Pebble in My Shoe

Growing up, whenever a pebble got stuck in my shoe, I’d tussle with my toes to move it to the side till I felt I was comfortable. The pebble though, remained in my shoe.

In retrospect, it would have been easier to just remove the shoe, take the pebble out and wear the shoe again, but that would take time. Time I believed I didn’t have.

The pebble in the shoe was uncomfortable, pressing against my toes, cutting, piercing and yet, I’d rather chose to push it to the side and walk the whole day till evening when I eventually got home and removed it.

The pebble probably got into the shoe whilst I was playing in the sand, a rather fun activity!

Looking back, the pebble in the shoe is many things that happen to us in life. The small things that give us discomfort and yet we just randomly push them to the side, waiting till much later to remove them.

The challenge is, when we remove them, we are sore, hurt, pained and frustrated. And yet, we could just have removed them much earlier. All we needed was to stop for a moment, in time and remove the pebble.

What pebbles do you have in your life that you feel are just waiting for the dusk before they are removed? And what’s stopping you from stopping? Is the stopping that difficult to do? To achieve? Will the stopping waste your time? The pebble was probably something that happened because you enjoyed playing in the sand! So, will you stop playing in the sand because the pebble got stuck in your shoe yesterday?

This is my February pebble.

And a happy wordversary to myself. 10 years writing! Woot woot!

Inner Peace

Like Master Shifu spent most of the third installation of the Kung Fu Panda movie doing, finding your inner peace is seldom experienced. I mean, what is inner peace? How do you even know you have inner peace?

I think…

Have you noticed how things that would bother, irk you in the past now don’t even vex or move you? That someone said something or even thought it about you no longer has an impact on your self esteem? Have you noticed that the problems you once assumed were the end of the world don’t even come close to national security quotas? That that issue you once pondered on for months on without end seems to be like a breeze on a cold Friday morning with the sun rise in the back drop?

I think…

Inner peace is mostly finding comfort with oneself and just doing you. And I don’t mean a doing you that’s unrealistic but rather a doing you that you enjoy being you.

I think…

We find inner peace when we allow the inner man to be. The inner man – soul – gut – or whatever you want to call it is influenced by a lot, society, society and some more society. But, if you let the Spirit man guide your inner man, oh, you will start to enjoy inner peace.

I think…

I digress a little here. God is faithful. God is graceful and loving. I sometimes amuse when we shudder at God’s love for us thinking that He’s just being exceptional in that moment. I believe that to a greater extent, staying attuned to the Father allows for you to enjoy the full time excellence you occasionally experience as a miracle because life.

I think…

To find inner peace is to allow yourself to be one and a whole. Meditation, seclusion, prayer, exercising, living wholly. You need to be one with yourself. Our biggest detractors are ourselves. We always short change ourselves, our abilities, our strengths. We always want to assume we are inadequate so as to take the fall lightly when we actually fail. Nope. You need to fall. And get up, and fall again. You do it long enough and maybe you actually start to rise higher and move faster. Most times, we are afraid of falling and when we do, we are fearful of rising, again.

I mean, the Dark Knight Rose….sorry, Jesus rose!

I think…

Fulfillment in life, goals, ambition are all important. But the greatest thing that has happened to humanity is to fall in love. To be in love. Love your God, with all your heart, spirit and body. And love another, as you’d love yourself.

I think the secret to inner peace is to be one with the Spirit – God. Love your God. To love others. Your soul and inner man should invest in loving others for where there’s love, there can’t be hate. And when your inner man is loving others, the over flow simply means you are in love with yourself. Finding inner peace is to love others for it’s through loving others that you will understand how to love oneself.

I think inner peace is coming to the understanding that you were put here for a purpose and through our Creator, achieving that inner peace, gives us the strength to go beyond.

Have your found your love?

DANSK!

It’s the season for loving, and giving, and inner peace.

Refresh; Life in the Spirit

You are Spirit, With a Soul, In a Body.

This has been the teaching at church for the last few weeks.

This has sort of thrown light into some thoughts I have been having recently.

So, last evening after our MC fellowshipping, I had a chat with a friend who was in the same place I was about 7 months ago. At the time, I was asking myself who I was, and what my relationship with Christ was. I was seeking Him out. I had surrounded myself with people who seemed to know Him, had an intimate relationship with Him, and seemed to have everything together. They were truly and honestly happy. Not the false happiness we wear on our faces, hide behind our smiles, but radiating happiness.

I kept on asking myself what they had, that I didn’t! I kept on wondering what they did, that I wasn’t doing. It would hurt me internally when I saw the joy and testimonies they told when we met. I wanted that. I wanted that joy, that happiness. If Christ really was giving them that joy, why wasn’t He giving me the same joy?

Anyway, when I started this relationship with Christ, to a greater extent I thought that things would happen immediately, and that I’d be in a better place and space like my friends were. I expected much. I desired for much. Boy, I wanted what they were getting.

But then, I realized that we are different. Our understanding and relationships with Him were different. I understood that it was a journey. I knew that eventually I’d be where they were. I started to hold no grudges and slowly started to trust in Christ, and in God, and building a relationship with Him.

My personal relationship with Christ is that of an older, wiser brother who is always looking out for the younger brother. And to me, God is my parent. That’s my relationship with them. To some, Jesus is their best friend. Well, the more time I spent thinking about Christ, and listened and heard, the more I realized that God is always with us, and we are always with Him. God has always wanted us to have a personal relationship with Him.

The Bible holds the answers to all the questions we most times don’t have answers to. Last night, taking to a friend who was where I felt I was months ago, it was easy to relate and see in what state of mind he was and it was easier preaching to him.

We are here to be Spirit filled and Spirit led, and to continuously renew our minds to Christ like things. Focusing on Christ like things is to have life and peace, and to be carnally minded is death was the teaching at fellowship yesterday. And having experienced Christ in every aspect of my life these last few months has been humbling.

What is your relationship with Christ?

I know and believe that God is walking with us everyday, communing with us through prayer, and that all that you need, desire, seek in Him, you will find. Phil 4:8!

Have a lovely month!

Testing God!

I write this for me,

and you!

Just stop. Trust in the Lord,

With all your heart and soul,

For your Spirit is from Him.

Stop trying to test him, like you would a light bulb and start allowing Him to love on you. I find myself many times trying to see if God’s listening to my prayers. And the truth is, He does. I know so because in many cases when I feel there’s nothing significant happening in my life, I resort to the older man, the older version of me, and many times, older versions just never function the way the newer versions do.

Stop trying to test God, like you would a lake by dipping one foot in. God is the lake, like His son, we shall walk on water. We usually ask God mostly for provision, but the challenge is that we only ask Him when we need it in the now, and yet, if we were always with Him, our problems would be solved.

Just stop! Don’t!

I am a newer version!

Universal Truths

I woke up extremely happy today because when God manifests in your life, everyday is a blessing pon blessing pon blessing, and when you let Him take control, well, mehn oh mehn. 

It’s just that with the knowledge and understanding I have now of my Father, there’s so many Uiversal Truths that I challenge. 

1. First things first, there’s NO limits with Him. We come begging Him to help, and well, when you don’t get what you asked for, you become childish about it, throw a tiff, sulk, throw Him out, and somehow, when the problem solves itself, you even forget to thank Him. Why do we limit Him in what He can and can’t do in our lives, with the good, and the bad? Why put Him in a special place in our lives where we can call out to Him only when we need him? I was with a friend yesterday talking about our experience with God and we just couldn’t stop smiling. The power to change and make us great and the love, oh the love He has for us is beyond your imagination. The parable of the Prodigal Son shows us what happens when we leave Him out and when we come back to Him. 

2. Our righteousness? Lol. Aren’t we a righteous bunch? For a long time I thought being good was all I needed to get into the Kingdom. In truth, the assumption was I had a standard of good-ness. Bruh! The standard of good-ness is Jesus. Can we be as good as Jesus was? I don’t think it is impossible but I know it’s very difficult. Someone slaps you on the right cheek and you put the left? In this day and age, that would be considered madness. But it’s a truth we’ve accepted. We have our set standard of good-ness, and when someone crosses it, oh, we shall be bad ass! The righteousness of Christ is what we should seek, and then we can have access to the Kingdom.

3. Love is the answer. This is a Godly misunderstood universal truth. Love is what makes us change, grow, accept, understand. What would the world be without love? It’s just that when we talk about love, we look at it the earthly way, the human way. There’s is the LOVE. God’s love is unconditional and relentless. He accepts us for who we are, for He made us. Humans on the other hand love accordingly. We love conditionally. We talk about being hard, strong, different, amazing lovers, and honestly, these are just a drop of water in a sea compared to what God’s love for us is. It’s in understanding and knowing this love that you become a conduit of this love. It’s in accepting this love that we can start to live freely. We humans just limit love. We have conditions on how and when we can and should be loved. It’s laughable.

4. Being saved is accepting Christ. It’s is a simple as that. Ati Catholic saved, Muslim saved, Anglican saved, Saved saved….Bruh, its all about Jesus. Yes, I am advocating for Christ to work in your lives. When I use my human goggles, I see imperfection, I see flaws, but in Christ, I walk on water. 

These universal truths and ways of life have blinded us from the righteousness of Christ and the power of living in Him and having Him work in your life, everyday. 

I don’t do this exercise because well, uhm, well, uhm, hahahahaha, but I do want you to try it. Get yourself a nice fancy book. At the front of the book, write down your worries each day, and at the back, write down the good things happening in your life. Be as honest. Could be a free meal, a movie ticket, free fuel (thanks Ma) or a friend calling. Do the same, write down the bad things. Your boss made you angry. You lost money. You were angry about traffic. Do this for a week. At the end of the week, compare notes. See if your worries matter then, and see the beauty of the good things in your life. Continue to do this for a month. Eventually, what worries you today, won’t even matter a week from now. If it’s a really big thing, well; Take. It. To. The. Lord. In. Prayer.

Everyday with God in my life means no worries for me, and I know for a fact that I am a worrier – human/universal truth but in God, what are these little things. There’s comfort and love in Him. When you discard these human truths and focus on God, well, that is one amazing experience. This daily journey is amazing, and I get to learn new cool stuff. And I get to see change, and growth.

July Musings ’17

  1. Praise God. Amen

    Oh yeah, blood, brother, bro, dude, mehn oh mehn, guyi gwe, haza mwana, I decided to put God first this year, in everything. Little did I know it would take me on an eight month journey that I can surmise in one word, God.

  2. Allow the idiot in you to prosper.

    What is self actualization? What is self? What is actualization? One of my favourite aphorisms is the statement, “the absence of presence, and the presence of absence” which was one of my fave arguments back in design school. Looking back, in this journey called life, there’s nothing like self actualization I believe. To be actualized means to come to a complete end, which ideally in this case would be non existence. I rather prefer to be self aware, which I believe you achieve in this journey called life – everyday. Let the inner you, and the outer you meet for a cup of coffee or tea, and talk it out, and see what’s going on, and see if you are on the same page or are in different phases of life, maybe then you can start to see life in a different glow.

  3. Ambition

    I think I’ve written about this before. One of my favourite songs I believe. What is your ambition? Like Kanye asked, is it money? is it cars? or is it hoes? Ambition is priceless, it is in your veins. You put your mind to it, anything, then you can achieve it.

  4.  Fear

    What are we really afraid of? I love hearing 20 year olds talk about their dreams, but fear what it means to achieve them, fear the failure that comes with their dreams! If it is a dream, come on, what’s the worst that could go wrong? We are afraid to start, and worry about failure of losing even before it’s began. Cast your fears away, what’s there to lose? Are you afraid to restart? Restarting means that’s there’s progress, there’s movement! Cast your fear away, and dream!

  5. Vision

    The ability to see further. Do you have that?

  6. June

    It was an ok month!

  7. July

    One of those months that tested my faith, and I am glad I stuck to the principle. Sometimes life comes at you really fast, you don’t even have time to press the brakes. Most times when we are down, feeling defeated and really not into this thing called living, just remember the good. We are sometimes most adamant about getting what we want that when we stumble and fall, we either quit, give up and walk away! BUT, why would you give up on your dream? Take it is an opportunity to work harder, better, smarter, wiser, and be patient with yourself. For crying out loud, it took you 12 months to become a year older! Come on.

  8. August

    Is finally here. Mehn oh mehn…it’s that time of the year that gets me excited, puts me in overdrive, and well, I am excited about this. God before everything. I desire it, I shall get it, work for it, look for it, and never give up on it.

Happy new month idiots.

Spread love, cheers, and smile.