Inner Peace

Like Master Shifu spent most of the third installation of the Kung Fu Panda movie doing, finding your inner peace is seldom experienced. I mean, what is inner peace? How do you even know you have inner peace?

I think…

Have you noticed how things that would bother, irk you in the past now don’t even vex or move you? That someone said something or even thought it about you no longer has an impact on your self esteem? Have you noticed that the problems you once assumed were the end of the world don’t even come close to national security quotas? That that issue you once pondered on for months on without end seems to be like a breeze on a cold Friday morning with the sun rise in the back drop?

I think…

Inner peace is mostly finding comfort with oneself and just doing you. And I don’t mean a doing you that’s unrealistic but rather a doing you that you enjoy being you.

I think…

We find inner peace when we allow the inner man to be. The inner man – soul – gut – or whatever you want to call it is influenced by a lot, society, society and some more society. But, if you let the Spirit man guide your inner man, oh, you will start to enjoy inner peace.

I think…

I digress a little here. God is faithful. God is graceful and loving. I sometimes amuse when we shudder at God’s love for us thinking that He’s just being exceptional in that moment. I believe that to a greater extent, staying attuned to the Father allows for you to enjoy the full time excellence you occasionally experience as a miracle because life.

I think…

To find inner peace is to allow yourself to be one and a whole. Meditation, seclusion, prayer, exercising, living wholly. You need to be one with yourself. Our biggest detractors are ourselves. We always short change ourselves, our abilities, our strengths. We always want to assume we are inadequate so as to take the fall lightly when we actually fail. Nope. You need to fall. And get up, and fall again. You do it long enough and maybe you actually start to rise higher and move faster. Most times, we are afraid of falling and when we do, we are fearful of rising, again.

I mean, the Dark Knight Rose….sorry, Jesus rose!

I think…

Fulfillment in life, goals, ambition are all important. But the greatest thing that has happened to humanity is to fall in love. To be in love. Love your God, with all your heart, spirit and body. And love another, as you’d love yourself.

I think the secret to inner peace is to be one with the Spirit – God. Love your God. To love others. Your soul and inner man should invest in loving others for where there’s love, there can’t be hate. And when your inner man is loving others, the over flow simply means you are in love with yourself. Finding inner peace is to love others for it’s through loving others that you will understand how to love oneself.

I think inner peace is coming to the understanding that you were put here for a purpose and through our Creator, achieving that inner peace, gives us the strength to go beyond.

Have your found your love?

DANSK!

It’s the season for loving, and giving, and inner peace.

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Refresh; Life in the Spirit

You are Spirit, With a Soul, In a Body.

This has been the teaching at church for the last few weeks.

This has sort of thrown light into some thoughts I have been having recently.

So, last evening after our MC fellowshipping, I had a chat with a friend who was in the same place I was about 7 months ago. At the time, I was asking myself who I was, and what my relationship with Christ was. I was seeking Him out. I had surrounded myself with people who seemed to know Him, had an intimate relationship with Him, and seemed to have everything together. They were truly and honestly happy. Not the false happiness we wear on our faces, hide behind our smiles, but radiating happiness.

I kept on asking myself what they had, that I didn’t! I kept on wondering what they did, that I wasn’t doing. It would hurt me internally when I saw the joy and testimonies they told when we met. I wanted that. I wanted that joy, that happiness. If Christ really was giving them that joy, why wasn’t He giving me the same joy?

Anyway, when I started this relationship with Christ, to a greater extent I thought that things would happen immediately, and that I’d be in a better place and space like my friends were. I expected much. I desired for much. Boy, I wanted what they were getting.

But then, I realized that we are different. Our understanding and relationships with Him were different. I understood that it was a journey. I knew that eventually I’d be where they were. I started to hold no grudges and slowly started to trust in Christ, and in God, and building a relationship with Him.

My personal relationship with Christ is that of an older, wiser brother who is always looking out for the younger brother. And to me, God is my parent. That’s my relationship with them. To some, Jesus is their best friend. Well, the more time I spent thinking about Christ, and listened and heard, the more I realized that God is always with us, and we are always with Him. God has always wanted us to have a personal relationship with Him.

The Bible holds the answers to all the questions we most times don’t have answers to. Last night, taking to a friend who was where I felt I was months ago, it was easy to relate and see in what state of mind he was and it was easier preaching to him.

We are here to be Spirit filled and Spirit led, and to continuously renew our minds to Christ like things. Focusing on Christ like things is to have life and peace, and to be carnally minded is death was the teaching at fellowship yesterday. And having experienced Christ in every aspect of my life these last few months has been humbling.

What is your relationship with Christ?

I know and believe that God is walking with us everyday, communing with us through prayer, and that all that you need, desire, seek in Him, you will find. Phil 4:8!

Have a lovely month!

Values!

What. Are. Your. Values?

Who are you? What are you?

This is the question I’ve asked myself most this year. Who am I?

And like the saying goes, you look for something long enough and you surely are going to find it. And I am so glad I finally found what I was looking for! I finally found myself. I finally knew who I was! I finally understood the path that I should walk!

And it starts with values! What are your values as an individual? What are my values? Surprisingly, our values reflect deeply in all aspects of our life. In our spiritual, physical, financial, relational and intellectual spaces.

Finding your values is not a one day event that ends in you understanding what you need to do but rather a journey, a purposeful journey, that pushes you in the direction you need to walk. Personally, mine started when I was looking for a relationship with God. I honestly felt that I was lacking spiritually even if I believed and acted according to my faith. And when I started to figure out what kind of relationship I have with the Alpha and Omega, the Creator, it’s become increasingly and increasingly clear where I should go.

And most of all, I understood what my values are as a christian. When I got a hold of these elements and aspects of what I am, I started to apply them into various spaces of my life, my family, my relationships with my partner and friends, my work, and every little thing that I do.

It is exciting I tell you. You start to see life in the Godly dimension, and that is the most comfortable way of living. No stress. Peace of mind. Only good things I tell you.

So, what are your values?

Testing God!

I write this for me,

and you!

Just stop. Trust in the Lord,

With all your heart and soul,

For your Spirit is from Him.

Stop trying to test him, like you would a light bulb and start allowing Him to love on you. I find myself many times trying to see if God’s listening to my prayers. And the truth is, He does. I know so because in many cases when I feel there’s nothing significant happening in my life, I resort to the older man, the older version of me, and many times, older versions just never function the way the newer versions do.

Stop trying to test God, like you would a lake by dipping one foot in. God is the lake, like His son, we shall walk on water. We usually ask God mostly for provision, but the challenge is that we only ask Him when we need it in the now, and yet, if we were always with Him, our problems would be solved.

Just stop! Don’t!

I am a newer version!

Evolve-d

Hurt People Hurt People! – Confucius 

What is love? The answer is in 1 Corinthians 13: –

Read the whole chapter and maybe we can start to delve deeper.

And NO, I don’t think Confucius coined the term, ‘Hurt People, Hurt People’ but rather it’s the meaning behind this adage, paradigm that I’d like to share my thoughts on.

You know how a rotten tomato spoils the other tomatoes in the basket full of fresh juicy tomatoes? That’s what happens when hurt people decide to date without first cleansing and renewing themselves. It’s important that before you start a new relationship, the shackles that hold you to your past are broken, and you are free to freely love someone.

I had and wanted to quote that bible verse specifically to broaden your horizons on what exactly love is. We many times misuse the world love. Some of my favourite ones are when people use and say things like – I am falling/fell out of love? I stopped loving because? I have little love left because? for a friend, partner and confidant. It simply means that you didn’t understand what love was in the first place. Love nurtures and grows. Love makes you see the good side of people, and accept the flaws AND try to work on those flaws. It’s essential that when two people come together, they purpose their selves in learning and growing in love. Love is work. Not just a random feel of fwaaa fwaaa

And in truth it starts by understanding that your past does not define your future. Your past is your past. We should stop looking to the past to live in the future. I mean, Obama once said, how can you move forward if you are looking back? Many relationships these days focus on the past they fail -continuously to live in/for the future, and before you know it, you are back to the past with someone new.

Look at it this way. If person X hurt you, forgive – which is difficult and you can refer to previous posts, and move on. Learn from it and grow. When you meet person Y, person X shouldn’t be in the picture, in whatever way, past, present or future. Many times though, we get hurt by person X, move on to person Y still angry at person X, compare Y to X when they falter, pick the stupid lessons from X and apply them to your new Y and before you know it, Y has become X, and now Z is coming into the picture. And then X, Y, Z! I honestly hope you understand this analogy.

Eventually, the cycle continues, and now Y becomes X to another person and damn it, just stop it people. Why are we so hell bent on our past?

I know it hurts. I know you gave it your all. I know things probably didn’t work out. I know you probably messed up. I know you now have insecurities. I know that maybe what you believed was love was not what it turned out to be. Turn your life to Christ. 

I now know that everyone deserves a clean slate, a chance to become better and grow, and a NEW you, not an old version. Look at it this way, software always needs an upgrade, a better version of itself. But software doesn’t discriminate on who and what and how it can be used (love). Software (You) works on itself so that the new user can enjoy themselves and experience it better. Software (You) doesn’t look back and determine that you cannot harness its full potential, no, it allows you to fully use it the best way you can in the now (present). And it won’t judge you. Be like software, fix your bugs, have a renewed and better experience with the you. Don’t judge new users based on the old, but rather better yourself (bug fixes) so that the new user can experience something wholesome and refreshing. The past is who you are, but shouldn’t define the mistakes you make in the future. DO NOT LIVE IN THE PAST!

Love grows. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not judge. We need to evolve. We need to stop blaming our past for the mistakes we shall make in the future. If you were hurt, grieve, cleanse, renew, begin – afresh. This time a better version of yourself – evolved, to allow your partner experience the whole you, and not just parts of you you deem clean or fit to be used. And for Christ’s sake, don’t take out your frustrations from the past into the future, that’s how hurt people end up hurting people.

PS: We can fall out of like with someone, but before we do it, remind yourself what exactly it was that got you to like them. Most times we shall choose the easy way out, the weak way out, and look at the faults and flaws of that someone but usually that’s a reflection of what/who we are. Only weak people choose to see the weakness in others.

Double PS: If someone chooses not to see your light, don’t deem that light. Find someone who will keep that light shining bright. Find your Sunshine, and maybe the darkness in you will be as bright as the Moonlight!

Stay awesome people. Let’s always choose love. It’s not the easiest way, but that’s why we are on this earth. To love, and to love.

New Man

Something happens when you give your life to Christ.

And I mean giving the whole you, not just bits and pieces. The whole of you.

Me I’ve done that. Sometimes, I wake up wrestling with the idea that maybe I’ve not fully given in and then I am reminded of how amazing He is.

The phrase ‘learning and unlearning’ has garnered waves on the internet recently, and in a way it has got me thinking of the older me. I believe that we are here to fulfill God’s anointed purpose for us and maybe sometimes we are blinded by earthly truths, we feed the flesh and not the spirit and in turn soil the soul. It’s quite profound the things I’ve been trying to unlearn because of these earthly truths.

You don’t realize how broken you were until the light shines upon you. And then you start to see the cracks and fissures and dents all over your vase. Earthly truths are things not found in the book of life, opinions that we’ve gestated over time and these have become who we are. 

One of the greatest earthly truths I gestated was that I need to work for God’s approval. Another was that I could actually choose how I felt and what I did without Him. Another was that I could call on Him when I only needed Him. The biggest was that I could rely on Him in the low moments and forget about Him during the highs. And my personal favourite, that I could actually forgive and love without Him.

As amusing and benign as some of these thoughts are, to me, these are the earthly truths I am trying to unlearn. That I actually have to fight for a place by His side has already been nullified by His only begotten Son. That I need Him only when low is but amusing because in Him, there’s only highs. That I can call on Him anytime is but the best thing that happened to us such that I don’t just need to call Him during the tough times. What are tough times when you have Him?! And most of all, I am only but a vessel, and if He can forgive me, surely I can forgive anyone.

The hardest thing to do is forgive, and love unconditionally. It’s only when you understand that you are a vessel that promulgates  God’s love that you start to understand these two things. Like me, you and I are incapable of fully and honestly forgiving. God does, God has. 

I tried explaining to my mother the other day that it was not her responsibility to forgive her stepmother. That what she (stepmother) had done to them is humanly impossible to forgive. But, if she could just allow Christ to forgive through her (my mother), then she would find the peace she’s seeking. 

In Christ, the old man is dead, and the new man is born again, with salvation and eternal life.

In Christ, I am born again. In Christ, I am renewed. In Christ, who can stop me?! Surely! 

C. E. O

Guys, I am a CEO, well, have been for quite sometime, and the psychology of the work space is very very important.

I shared a couple of tweets last week about what I believe is a good leader. In retrospect, I asked myself what is the kind of leader I want to be, and what would the kind of leader be who led me? Guys, forgive the wish washy sentencing. Basically, this is the boss I’d like to be.

1. It’s is important as an employer to cultivate an environment of trust! With trust comes loyalty, and growth! Your team needs to be able to trust you so that they can efficiently work in an environment that nurtures them. Your team needs to know that you have their backs, in whatever they do. Trust builds loyalty. Trust allows for the team to grow because they KNOW. Trust means that they will see you through, in the thick and thin, the highs and the lows, the glory and the fall. Trust means that you don’t even have to be there for work to get done! It shall get done. Without trust, your brand, your company, can all go to the dogs because your employees don’t see the need as to why they should hold you!

2. Your team needs to know they are valuable, and also needs to know your values as an employer. You need to be on the same page. If I value what you bring to the table, then it’s easy for me to understand what you mean to the company and the process. If you know what I value, then it’s easy to figure out what to bring to the table. Communication becomes easier, work flow becomes easier, the process becomes easier. If we value different things, mehn oh mehn, we are going to have conflicts. I always like my Sundays free, for church, and family. If my employer wants me to work on a Sunday, then that is going to be a challenge. Sometimes it is in the things we value too. Ensure your team knows your values, and find out what their values are.

3. Being an employer means being a good leader. Get off that high horse and build a camaraderie with your work force. If you are unapproachable as a boss, then you are going to have issues, lots of issues. Part of building a solid team is knowing that anyone in the office can approach you and not get to feel intimidated when they do. You’d be surprised about what you’d find out. Again, it gets easier when communicating. 

4. Try and figure out your teams strength and weaknesses, and capitalize on those aspects. Build the team yo.

5. Always keep lines of communication. In good times and bad. Let them know what the process is, and what the commitment to the process is!

6. And as the team leader, it’s important to know the mechanics, and processes of everyone on the team. To know is to be wise.

7. If you are passionate about what you do, then it’s easier to pick a team with the same dream.

8. Be teachable! Always be open to the idea that you can learn something new. Always!

I will keep adding to this post until we get there!